Yesterday we drove about three hours with some dear long-time friends to see the total solar eclipse. We had a great time; the weather was perfect, the eclipse was amazing and the time with our friends was special. One of the friends had gotten the following in an email and sent it to us. How timely, after the day we had just experienced. I don’t see an author’s name, but a big thank you to whoever penned the words.
A newlywed young man was sitting on the porch with his father, chatting about adult life.
As he talked about marriage, responsibilities, and obligations, the father cast a clear, sober look at his son.
“Never forget your friends,” he advised, “they will become more important as you get older.”
“Regardless of how much you love your family and the children you happen to have, you will always need friends. Remember to go out with them occasionally, do activities with them, call them …”
“What strange advice!” thought the young man. “I just entered the married world, I am an adult and surely my wife and the family that we will start will be everything I need to make sense of my life.”
Yet he obeyed his father; Kept in touch with his friends and annually increased their number. Over the years, he became aware that his father knew what he was talking about.
Inasmuch as time and nature carry out their designs and mysteries on a man, friends were the bulwark of his life.
After 60 years of life, here is what he learned:
Life goes on.
The distance separates.
Children grow up.
Children cease to be children and become independent. And for the parents, it pulls at the heart but the children are separated from them.
Jobs, plans and projects come and go.
Illusions, desires, attraction, sex … weaken.
People do not do what they should do.
The heart breaks.
The parents die.
Colleagues forget the favors.
The races are over.
But, true friends are always there, no matter how long or how many miles away they are.
A friend is never more distant than the reach of a need, intervening in your favor, waiting for you with open arms or blessing your life.
When we started this adventure called LIFE, we did not know of the incredible joys or sorrows that were ahead. We did not know how much we would need from each other. Love your parents, take care of your children, but keep a group of good friends, ones with whom you can dialog, without either of you imposing your criteria.